If Valentines has you feeling defeated and alone today, please read this

5:30 am Wendy van Eyck 0 Comments

As a result of this encounter, Hagar decided to give the Eternal One who had spoken to her a special name because He had seen her in her misery.
Hagar: I’m going to call You the God of Seeing because in this place I have seen the One who watches over me. Genesis 16:13 (VOICE)

I get it, if this Valentine’s Day you don’t want to hear that you are loved by God. (tweet this)

Even though it's true, it’s kind of Christianity 101. And it's kind of a platitude that can mean so little when your love forgets the 14th of Feb is an important date, or you're out pretending you don't care with friends, or heating up yet another meal for one. At times like that it feels a lot like God's love has failed you.

Being told “God loves you” on Valentine’s Day is a bit like being told that boys only pull the hair of girls they like. 

I get it, if this Valentine’s Day you don’t want to hear God is with you either.

While it’s just as true as the phrase “You are loved by God” doesn’t this one just make you want to shout, “Tell that to the empty chair on the opposite side of the table”, or “Say that to the man at the cinema who looked pitifully at me when I order a ticket for one”, or “Well, then, where is God when my partner is out again with someone else”. 

This Valentine’s Day what I really want to know is that my heart and my dreams are seen and remembered by God. 

Some of my favourite stories in the bible bear witness to this. The verses I underline, the chapters that I read over and over again are those where God notices the people others pass by: 
The woman at the well
The woman caught in adultery 
The lame
The cripple
The blind 
The thief

And then there is the story of Hagar, the servant girl that Sarah used as a way to force God’s hand to fulfill his promise of a child. 

A girl who ran away to the desert to die. 
A girl who God saw. 
A girl who God met with in her lonely, unlovable state and reminded her that he saw her, that she mattered.


As a result of this encounter, Hagar decided to give the Eternal One who had spoken to her special name because He had seen her in her misery.
Hagar said: I’m going to call You the God of Seeing because in this place I have seen the One who watches over me. (tweet this)

Isn't that beautiful?

Recently I read Sara Hagerty's book, "Every Bitter Thing is Sweet". It's a story of the highs and lows of infertility, adoption, and finding the family you always longed for. 

One of my favourite parts in the book is when Sara is praying with her four year-old son birthed on another continent:
“Thank You, God, for remembering me when my Ethiopian mommy wasn’t around.” He had words for concepts too big for his young mind to fully conceive. Then my girl followed. “Thank You for remembering when I got my ears pierced, even though I don’t remember.” I caught Nate’s eyes and he gave me the look that said, We just stumbled onto something holy . Her words, too, were too big for her. An initiation that most girls anticipate for years and then treasure in memory was lost to her. Another unwitnessed mile marker. But wait, there was a Witness.

I love that. 

I love that these once-orphan children felt that God had witnessed their lives when they seemed to be forgotten, when they had no earthly mother and father to prize their milestones.

This is what I want you to know about God on Valentine's: I want you to know that God isn't going to pass you by, write you off, or walk away ashamed. 

I want you to know that God is going to invite you into a relationship with him despite my hair colour, height, weight, wallet size or sense of humor.

I want you to know that when you thought you were alone, when you felt you were unloved, God witnessed it all, that God remembered you.

God sees you, he can pick you out in a crowd, name the hairs on your head, and hold your thoughts in his hands.

He is a God who paints rainbows in the sky to remind you that nothing that is broken cannot be made new.*

So this Valentine’s I’m asking God to give me the gift of remembrance, to open my eyes to things he remembers about me from the times when I felt unloved and lonely. Will you join me?

Ponder: What do you most want God to tell you this Valentines?

Pray: God, open my eyes to things you remembers about me from the times when I felt unloved and lonely. 

* This line is a paraphrase of Phil Joel's song, God is watching over you.
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