Love Is Slow…

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{Guest Devotional by Alison Lam}

Love is patient. 1 Cor 13:4a (NIV)

Often, we get so used to certain phrases in the Bible, hearing them so much that they lose their ability to affect us, to have a deep impact on how we live our real life.

1 Cor 13:4
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Such is the case for me with the passage from 1 Corinthians 13, the famous “love chapter”. I often skim over this passage and think, “Oh, I’ve got this one. Love is patient? Yup. Check. Got it.”

I think I’ve always just let the phrase “Love is patient” be a nice reminder to me to lovingly put up with a loved one’s shortcomings, not holding it against them. I’ve thought of it as a call to let others grow and mature, and love them through it. 

That’s all good stuff (and I believe it’s true), but recently, there’s been something else that God has wanted to highlight to me. Something more to do with the nature of love, and less about how I have to act or what I have to do.

Recently, I took a look at this well-known chapter again and something stood out to me.

I saw patience in a new light. 

After I read the phrase, “Love is patient” it was as if the Holy Spirit nudged me and said, 

“What if you saw patience in light of something being slow – slow…er than you want it to be. It feels too slow for you.”


I think that just pressed a button in me. Ouch.

I’m often in such a rush to have life happen to me. I often think life and love is lagging behind me. I’m in such a hurry to go forward. To begin new chapters. To turn to a new page. To take hold of what’s next. 

C’mon, momentum, I want my portion and I want it… yesterday!

So, love is… slow. Yes, Holy Spirit, that’s a good way to look at it. You’ve got my attention.

Love is definitely slower than I want it to be. 

I have such a hard time accepting love on love’s terms sometimes!

Love doesn’t happen overnight. Love forms like a tree. It starts as a seed going down into the ground. It takes time, and it must break out of the soil in the right season. You cannot force it or rush it. If you do, you weaken it, possibly even kill it.

Love takes time. 

Love is intimacy, and intimacy takes time. (tweet this)

I recently heard a song from the musician Luke Wood with the chorus going something like this, “Time, time, precious time. Intimacy requires time.”  It hit something deep in my heart, something my flesh fights against.

It takes time to know someone, to become intimate with them in the truest sense of knowledge.

Love is not (and cannot be) a check-list to do on a random, occasional rainy day. It’s a life-long thing. Yes, it’s practical and, yes, it involves doing things on the check-list but love is conceived, birthed, formed and matured over years. Over a lifetime.

Love is slow! (tweet this)

So, if love is slow…er than I want it to be, that means I need to slow myself down. I need to savor the present moment a little longer than I thought I had to. I need to appreciate and accept the growing and maturing process of love and relationships, embracing the day after day investment of myself and my heart into the making of love, the forming of love.

Love is not in a rush. It’s not in a hurry, and if it is, maybe it’s not really love. (tweet this)

Real love forms in the garden of a resting heart – a heart at rest with God’s timing, God’s seasons, God’s pace and God’s way of doing things.

I think there’s something about this I need to surrender to. I need to surrender to the pace of love, because love seems to happen on a timetable that I naturally resist – nothing happens fast enough for me!

But, ultimately, it is better to slow down and set my heart’s pace to walk with Love. To stay in step with Love. In the end, love that is slow and unrushed will be the most fruitful, producing the most tangible, tasty fruit. 

And that’s what we really want, isn’t it? Something real. Something good. Something really good.

Yes, God, you’re right. Love is slow, and that’s a good thing. The real thing takes time.

So, how about you slow down now and take a moment to reflect:
See if there are areas in your life where you are rushing ahead, frantically hurrying to make something happen. 
Ask God to give you a vision of real love that grows and forms slowly. 
Ask God to slow you down to stay in step with His pace, letting love form rightly. 
Give love permission to take its sweet time. In the end, you’ll look back and say it was so worth it.

{About Alison Lam: The Author Of This Guest Devotional}
I'm a combo deal of serious and silly, deep and dorky. East meets West. I'm a "plant-roots-at-home" girl and a "go-ye-into-all-the-world" girl. I've followed Jesus all around the world over the years and now He's brought me back to Canada. I'm learning what it means to be a missionary in my own homeland. If my adult life has taught me anything, it's to say "YES" to becoming as childlike as possible in the hands of the Father so He is free to set His love in all its fullness upon me. For more about me, visit: and on Twitter: @alisonjoyful

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