This One Is For The Caregivers… {Because (in)couragement Is A Superpower}

9:15 am Wendy van Eyck 8 Comments

Matthew 11:28
photo: Alfred Hermida via photopin cc | Design: Wendy van Eyck
I cried in the car on the way to work today.

It’s not an unusual thing for me either. 

I never thought I was a crier but then my husband was diagnosed with cancer and I tear up over almost anything. I rarely cry in public, but in my car when I’m singing worship music at the top of my lungs, I often find moisture running down my cheeks. 

I also have been known to yell at my husband when his vomiting has kept me up all night, and I’m really tired, and I just want to sleep. 

My husband and I would have starved last year while he was having chemo if it wasn’t for a constant supply of food from friends and ready-made meals from the store round the corner. 

When it comes to me being a caregiver I’m far from perfect, which is probably a relief to most of you, at least I hope it is. 

Caring for sick parents, husbands, friends or children is no easy task which is why when Lesley Miller (you can find out more about her on her blog) asked me if I would co-lead an (in)courager group with her for caregivers I thought

“Um, me? I cry, I yell, I eat other peoples food. What can I share?” 

Then it clicked. 

I can share my reality. 

I can share the real moments, the funny moments, the I’m-so-glad-I’m-here moments and the I-can’t-do-this-anymore moments.

So Lesley and I would like to invite our female readers who are caregivers, in one way or another, to connect with us on Facebook. You can request to join our Facebook page by clicking here.

We’ll be posting encouraging bible verses (like the one in the pic above), articles and thoughts to help you out when you feel like giving up. 

We’ll also be offering you grace on the days when you roll into work with puffy eyes, or when you shout at the person you’re meant to be caring for or when you just don’t have it in you to cook a meal.

But mostly I’m looking forward to hearing from you, discovering your stories and finding out what makes each day as a caregiver rewarding - even when it sometimes makes you cry, yell or eat someone else’s food. 

I hope you’ll join us!

About Me
In one-way or another I’ve been a caregiver my whole life. First with a mom who was in and out of hospital with a heart condition while growing up, then in my twenties my younger brother was diagnosed with Crohns Disease and had at least one op a year while we shared a flat. In fact if my husband hadn’t been one of the healthiest men I’d ever met, before his cancer diagnosis, I might think that I’ve got some kind of caregiver-dependency problem. Eight months after we married he was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma so for the last year we’ve been coming to grips with chemo, scans and biopsies. He will be starting a second round of chemo in the next month as the first round wasn't successful. 

About Lesley

I reluctantly found myself in a caregiving role in October 2011 when my husband was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma. At the time we were also caring for our first baby, Anna, who was three months old. For most of her first year of life I was learning to not only care for a baby, but also a husband whose health fluctuated depending on the week. At the time I knew I could benefit by talking to other women in a similar situation but I didn't know how to find them. I was really happy to help start a group this spring for other women who may need a support network. 

About (in)courager Groups
The (in)courager community groups exist to build safe, Christ-centered, welcoming, small groups for women through the (in)courage website and social media. With a variety of topics to choose from, the groups and your co-leaders are here to serve you, just as you are and where you are, in this season. We invite you to find a place that feels comfortable, where you can kick off your shoes, snuggle into the comfy couch and share your life with like-minded, Jesus-loving women around the world. It’s a place where you can grow in your friendships with other women and be encouraged to deepen your relationship with God. (in)courager groups will be led by a team of women who have a heart for serving. They aren’t experts, but have a willingness to walk with others and (in)courage them along the way. (You can find out more here)


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